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We hope you feel welcomed here. Your safety is our number one priority. You may feel that Refuge House is a place where other people might feel comfortable, but not you. It’s easy to feel that way, before you meet our staff and other people who are getting support from Refuge House. We want to put your mind at ease. Services are available in multiple languages.

If you are feeling confused, or scared or bad in your relationship because your partner puts you down or keeps you from going places, that’s a good time to call us—even if you aren’t sure what “counts” as domestic violence. Let us help you sort out your feelings, take a look at what has been happening and talk about options. Feeling less alone is a really good feeling.

We know that domestic violence happens in relationships between women; many lesbian survivors have received support from Refuge House. You may be concerned that you will “out” yourself and your partner by seeking support. You may fear retaliation for doing so. We are proud to stand with you in your journey and to be your advocate.

You may be concerned that you will be rejected by family and community for identifying as a victim of abuse. And you may fear that your partner may be treated in a racist or homophobic way if you identify them as an abuser. We will help you connect with the positive people in your life who will be proud of you. And we will advocate with you for justice and equality.

Refuge House is a safe place for you and your children. We know that your legal status may be a concern for you, and that your partner may be using your status as a way to control you and isolate you. We can help you exercise your legal rights for protection and support.

We are looking forward to your call. We know that abusers can take advantage of a person’s disability to hurt them or control their access to assistive equipment or services. We are 100% accessible.

Many victims are encouraged by abusers to use a lot of alcohol and drugs to make them feel more vulnerable and defenseless. You may be using alcohol and drugs as a way to try to cope with the violence in your life or to try to manage your emotions. We are here help you be safe and to support you as you identify your healing goals.

Yes, with open arms. We know that domestic violence affects many gay survivors, and may include emotional, physical and sexual abuse. We are here as your ally and supporter.

We know that prostitution hurts. We are honored to support your well-being in body, mind and spirit.

We have served many victims and their children who are being abused by well-known or professional partners. You will find your privacy closely protected here at Refuge House. At Refuge House, you have complete control over all information you share about yourself and your abuser.

We are here for you. You may feel especially concerned because Refuge House is identified as an agency that serves so many female victims. Please call us—all of our programs, including emergency shelter services, are available and welcome to you and your children.

Yes, please call us. We know that you may be experiencing abuse from partners and family members who say you deserve it because you are transgender. Or you may feel that you owe your partner money or other resources, even though he/she is abusing you. We are here for you.